When Someone Else Is Already Doing What You Want To Do

Amy Riordan photographer and business strategist

Have you ever found yourself feeling like, what’s the point? There’s someone out there better than me, doing the same thing as me & there is no point in doing this if I’m not going to be the best?

Hey, me too! Except then I realized a few things that made me question the world in its entirety; things that turned my world upside down & made my life that much better. (You’re welcome!) 1. That’s negative self talk & you just need to stop it. 2. Who says you couldn’t be better than the person you’re comparing yourself to? 3. Why in the hell are you comparing yourself to them anyway?

This is an incredibly interesting topic to me, especially considering how many professionals (ie. speakers, podcasters, writers, etc) talk about how important it is to find a niche that’s not taken, or explaining that if you aren’t going to be the best, then you shouldn’t even try. And while I know that they are trying to motivate you, it makes my inner perfectionist cringe with anxiety every time I hear it. It’s also bullshit – excuse my language – for SO MANY reasons. (Is anyone else hearing something similar to “Compare yourself to others from now on & constantly question whether or not you’re the best?”) Who are they (or you for that matter) to say what’s the best of the best? Who are they to tell you to choose something to dedicate your life to that you may or may not have any interest in? We are all different, so we relate to different people & different ways of doing different things. It’s always going to depend on who you’re speaking to, but the passion needs to be there – on both ends.

There are several bucket list blogs out there, & I’ve often wondered to myself, What’s the point? But the truth is, this is what I’m passionate about; this is what has allowed me to grow into a woman that I respect & sometimes even admire. And that’s something I’ve never been able to really say about myself.

No – this blog doesn’t make money. The podcast doesn’t currently make money, & I’m struggling with the possibility that it never will. But, when you’re doing something you really TRULY love; something that’s always in the back of your mind when you go to sleep, something that makes you feel fulfilled, money doesn’t matter. You know? It’s like that thing you’d do if you won the lottery & you all of a sudden have more money than you could ever need.

Find that. Find that feeling; that faith in something that you do not for money but for the pure satisfaction that it gives you just in being able to put it out there. Suddenly, in the moments when you start to question yourself again, you’ll have an answer to put it to rest. This makes you happy & that’s all that matters.

I don’t know about you, but in my book that’s winning at life.