When It Comes Crashing In…

    Out of the many things I’ve got to learn in this life, it’s that we not only get bullied when we’re little, but it can continue the rest of our lives – if we let it. If you really think about it, it’s true. So many of us are bullied in our relationships, our friendships & our careers but we continue to put up with things that we shouldn’t be putting up with. Why? And what is it that finally gets us to take action? Why does it take so much to get us to take action?

    When I was little, there was a big part of me that believed that standing up for myself would get me into big trouble. Granted, I wasn’t about to punch someone or anything, I’m talking about my fear to even fight back verbally. I couldn’t do it. I was too nervous or not quick enough or had too many people ganging up on me. It was exhausting. And this bullying continued somewhat through high school.

    It wasn’t until I was 21 that I realized it was still happening. Even though I was out of high school, there were people in my life that were pushing me around & messing with me just because they knew they could, people who played mind games & always left me feeling like I was the one to blame. And when I realized it, my world crashed in a little.

    That’s the other thing about life, when you start taking actions to defend yourself, sometimes your world will fall. You might lose friends and burn bridges, but you want & need to know what it feels like to not have that burden anymore. But you want to know the best part about it all crashing in? After crawling out of that rubble? There’s sunlight & blue skies. And then, just when you thought it couldn’t get any better, you start rebuilding… renovating your world. It’s exhilarating. You find a passion for life that you didn’t know you had because of all that was piled on before, & you get to build it however you’d like.

    I guess what I’m getting to is that standing up for yourself shouldn’t ever be scary, because not only are you changing your life for the better, but you’re building a strong, meaningful person. Standing up for yourself is your first step in gaining confidence; a gateway action you could say. Each time you take that stand, you learn something new about yourself, as well as those around you. You build character & you find people who would never treat you that way.

    Making a change is a big deal. It’s intimidating & exhilarating & so unbelievably scary… but you need to start living life for you. And – trust me – when you live life for you, the world is a completely different – happy – inspiring – moving – and all around amazing – place. It’s one of the most incredible things in the world & I would highly recommend it.


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