When Being A Perfectionist & Bucket Listing Collide

As many of you know, I’m the girl who strives for perfection. I’m the girlfriend who’s cleaning the house to surprise you when you get home, the daughter who gets your car an oil change when I borrow it, & the friend who does everything she can to help you fight through your difficult times. And I love being this person; truly. That said, being a perfectionist has a way of taking its toll on you, in so many ways that you would not expect, & I know that I am not alone.

As I sit here sarcastically giggling to myself, knowing that my perfectionism has kept me from posting numerous blogs, song lyrics & novel chapters that just weren’t ever quite right yet, I can stand proud. Now – finally – at the age of 28, I can honestly say that I’m finding a few little perfectionist remedies that are making a killing. This blog is to share them with that other perfectionist out there. I know your pain! And, while it’s certainly not the worst thing in the world, it can certainly have its way of taking over your life.

I hope this helps!

First, & Foremost: Don’t, I repeat DON’T, throw ANYTHING away!!!
Before I even realized I had a problem, any set of lyrics, novel chapters or outlines, idea lists, etc that weren’t just right were thrown away. Gone forever. And I can never look back on them. I cannot tell you how much I’ve lost; how many brilliant ideas (that someone else will execute) are in cyberspace or a landfill somewhere simply because I didn’t have the confidence to think they were worth anything at the time.

… And my old journals… Gah, I’m such an idiot. Yeah, maybe I was dramatic and I talked about kissing boys that weren’t my current boyfriend. Who cares? That was my life; a story I plan on writing some day. It’s all gone. Just don’t do it, okay?

Consider How Much Time You’re Wasting…
Alright, I’ll admit it. Occasionally… or rather often… I write & rewrite To Do lists. And I allow this, but how much time are you wasting as you work toward something to be perfect? Should you be rewriting your math homework so that it looks neat? Really? (Oh yeah, I’m so guilty of this…) There is just something about handwriting I suppose. But remember – time is money. Don’t let yourself waste your precious time. It truly is precious.

Realize How VERY Important Priorities Are.
To this day, I cannot work in a dirty, unorganized office. It must first be organized, & then I can work. Obviously for someone who now works from home, I certainly have my ways of working around this. I will work in the living room or go to a coffee house, because work is more important. Your customers are important & they are why you have your job. Don’t let your perfectionism get in the way of the important things, it’s simply not worth it. So, have your priorities. Know what’s most important to you, & when perfectionism kicks in, talk it down, & get to work.

As Is Life, Sometimes You Must Let Go.
I cannot tell you how many times I’ve had to find a way to let go. And, if I’m being completely honest, letting go is not something that comes easy to me. As someone who strives for being the best friend, daughter, girlfriend, & employee, it really hurts when I know that I’ve failed. (Especially when I was so certain that I did everything right.) Not only do you feel as though you’ve failed yourself, but you’ve failed this other person. Their disappointment is heartbreaking, & your confusion frustrating. But, sometimes, no matter how hard you fight toward something, it unfortunately won’t work. There will be people who don’t want to be friends with you, bosses who don’t value you as an employee, & significant others that take what you do for them for granted. And, as bad as it hurts, you must let it go. You must move on for you, & you alone, & be extremely proud of yourself when you do, because it’s not easy.

Lastly, Consider Your Health
Perfectionism is incredibly stressful, & it can be detrimental to your health. Is whatever project your boss didn’t like worth losing a portion of your life over? Honestly. If you’re lucky enough to have a job that does not often come with life or death situations, give yourself a break. Move forward, & celebrate each & every one of your successes. Count your blessings & hold on to them with everything you can.

Ultimately, live your life to the fullest, & fight that perfectionism when you know that it’s knocking at your door when you have better things to be doing. While a clean floor is nice, sometimes a night out on the town is more important all around.

Amy

Leave a Comment