Gaining Confidence…

We all have our ups and downs; moments when we’re completely down on ourselves and moments when we’re completely satisfied with ourselves. Life is a roller coaster. But what is it that determines where we are? And how can we keep ourselves toward the top?

I’m not going to go into detail about the things that get us down, because those are obvious, but what I am going to share are the things that just might bring you back up from even the toughest situations… some of them may surprise you.

1. Take More Risks – You may need confidence to take some risks, but I can assure you that taking more risks will not only boost your confidence, but get you on a path you truly enjoy. Think about it – the more risks you take, the more you learn about yourself and the world; the more you know yourself, the more you can go after the things you truly want in life. Without risk, there’s no reward.

2. Ask More Questions – Have you ever been told there’s no such thing as a stupid question? Well, I completely agree. It’s better to ask and learn then to sometimes experience. The more you can learn through the experiences of others, the more confident you’ll be and the better your own personal experiences will be.

3. Stay Positive – This one is a difficult one for many. When people are upset – they are upset, and they often don’t notice that they’re rubbing off on others. If you can keep your chin up and truly push forward, not only will you be proud of yourself when things pick back up again, but you’ll feel more confident about handling tough situations in the future… not to mention the fact that you might just inspire a few of your friends to stay stronger as well.

4. Take A Stand – Standing up for yourself and those around you can be scary, overwhelming and horribly dramatic… but there’s so much I’ve learned about myself in the process. We’re all so worried about burning bridges that we don’t see what’s right in front of us – people that are tearing us down and making us feel worthless – and then there’s us… the person who’s letting them do this to us. Take a stand for yourself, your friends, and your family. Stop letting people walk all over you.

5. Pay It Forward – You don’t need to spend money to do this… and you don’t need to put yourself in danger either. Paying it forward is a very quick pick-me-up for you, the person you’re helping, and anyone else involved. Click Here for just a few ways you can pay it forward in your community.

6. Learn When To Say No… And When To Say Yes – It took me a long time to realize that opportunity isn’t always knocking, so I told myself I needed to know when to say yes or no. As stupid as it may sound, it’s important, so when someone asks me if I’ll do something with them, I always take a quick second to ask myself, will I regret not taking this opportunity? And that’s when I answer.

7. Figure It Out – What’s been bothering you the most? That’s what you need to tackle before anything else. Whether it’s confronting someone or finding a way to move past whatever it is, do it. Fight for yourself and then create the life you’ve always wanted.

8. Make A List – There are quite a few people in this world who aren’t ‘List Makers,’ but I must say that when you’re overwhelmed and being down on yourself making a list can really help. You’ll be able to track your progress as you go, and there is hardly anything better in this world than the feeling of accomplishment.

9. Read Up – Reading is another way to learn more about the world and yourself without too much out-of-pocket purchasing. Pick books that teach you about things you’ve always wanted to do… and then do them!! Learn more about your interests instead of just being involved in the interests of others.

10. Admit It – One of my toughest obstacles thus far has been me admitting when I was wrong and not being afraid to do it. Everyone makes mistakes, and coming clean is just one step closer to the new, happy you – because now you have absolutely nothing to hide. (Talk about weight off of your shoulders.)

11. Take A Day – Give yourself a break and take a day or two off. You’d be surprised how much this helps when you sit down and relax to think about all of the things you want in life. Take this day to really remember who you are and where you’re headed.

12. Remember Success – What have you achieved in your lifetime so far? How has this changed you? This reflection is important, because it’s a reminder of what you CAN do. It gets you positive, inspired, and motivated.

13. Laugh Out Loud – Find a movie you love, or one you’ve wanted to see that you’re sure will get you laughing.

14. Talk To Someone – Often talking things through or writing them down can help you let go and move on. Find someone who you know will be supportive; someone who will remind you of all of the things you have going for you. If you’re worried about getting frustrated, just ask them if they could simply listen instead of giving advice.

15. Listen – On another note, you might consider listening to what you’re friend has to say. If you have the right person, they won’t be talking about how they understand or possibly have it worse, they’ll tell you why you have everything going for you – and what you should be thankful for.

16. Be Thankful – Knowing what you’re thankful for now is sure to pull you out of your slump. Make a list or just say it to yourself while you’re starting your daily routine. There’s always something to be thankful for, so start reminding yourself of what you DO have, instead of what you don’t.

17. Workout – Again, not many people like this one, but it’s true: working out can make you a more confident person for several reasons. I’m not just talking about endorphins. You’ll feel more confident, accomplished, and motivated. (My favorite is now Zumba.)

18. Don’t Dwell, Change – Another mistake people often make is that they spend all of their time upset about something instead of doing something about it. If you’re upset about something, do something to change it. If you’re unsure about something, learn more about it. If you’ve made a mistake, admit it and move forward. – Don’t put yourself in a hole, keep walking.

19. Celebrate – When you’ve accomplished something new, it’s important to celebrate what you’ve done. Reward yourself with something – anything – make yourself a prize because accomplishment should not go unrecognized.

20. Don’t Worry – This is a big one that will obviously never completely go away, but my rule of thumb for this one is simple: Will this matter one year from now? – I ask myself this question every time I worry about something stupid. My hair being cut short, a flat tire, a silly mistake, etc. If it won’t matter one to five years from now, perhaps it’s time to move forward and remember what you’re fighting for.


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