21 Signs You’ve Met Your Match

I’m well aware that I am very lucky in the boyfriend department. My guy Tim is so incredibly good to me & he certainly deserves to know it. So, in celebration of his upcoming birthday, & also because my readers deserve something new & delicious, here are 21 signs you’ve met your match. And, when you find them, be sure to never let them go. <3

THE SMALLEST THINGS COUNT MOST
Suddenly you notice the little things that he does for you; helping you over boulders when hiking & folding your laundry on days when he’s home early from work. How did you live any other way.

YOUR LIVES ARE OPEN BOOKS
Unless it’s a month or so before your birthdays, you both use each other’s phones fairly often. It’s not about a lack of trust, but neither of you has anything to hide. When his phones dead, he borrows yours to log his recent beer on “UnTapped” & you occasionally respond to texts for him while he’s driving. Of course, you always ask first, but it’s almost always a given.

THERE’S NO REASON TO TREAD LIGHTLY
You know each other well enough to be able to joke around without anyone getting overly offended. Not only does goofing off together keep you flirting well into the relationship, but it is a constant reminder that you can be you together without any judgement & only the occasional “ouch… low blow” response.

YOU BOTH FIGHT FAIR
Name calling & personal snubs are off-limits. Arguments are not about hurting the other person, but understanding each other & both of your needs – it’s an unspoken contract based on respect.

YOU OWN UP TO YOUR MISTAKES
You’re not afraid to admit that your anger may have been slightly over the top due to PMS or that you made a mistake that you know they might be disappointed about because you know it won’t be held against you. It’s also about respecting them enough to have them hear it from you & no one else. (And, on the moments when one of you says that it’s okay, & you know that it wasn’t, neither of you is afraid to say, “No, it’s not okay & I promise you that it will not happen again.”)

YOUR FRIENDS ARE HIS FRIENDS & VICE VERSA
Maybe you’ve never met his best friend Jeff, but if Jeff is a visitor at your house, you’re quick to clean the place up & make some cookies like you would your BFF. And if you’re friend needs help moving, your guy will be there in a moments notice simply to make life easier for you.

YOUR FAMILY IS HIS FAMILY & VICE VERSA
Alright, so you’re not married, but family requests are biggies. Regardless of whether or not your significant other is looking to impress your family, their loyalties should lie with your happiness. So, in the event of a family member needing assistance, they should be quick to jump & so should you.

YOUR MISTAKES AREN’T USED AGAINST ONE ANOTHER
That mistake that happened months back that YOU chose to forgive him for should never be used against him in following arguments, especially when it’s not a repeat offense. If you are feeling as though your significant other cannot be trusted, it’s time to move on. (Same goes with your significant other holding previous mistakes against you.) Life is too short.

YOU’RE NOT AFRAID TO DEFEND THEM
Regardless of whether or not your an introvert or extrovert (who may or may not be able to stand up for yourself), you’re not afraid to stand up for each other even in the smallest circumstances.

SMALL ARGUMENTS ARE SHORT-LIVED
You both know that life is short & happiness is important. There is no use in holding grudges – especially over the small things, so you’re quick to catch yourself in the mirror, talk yourself down, & get back to the important part: loving each other.

YOU DON’T FEEL PRESSURE & YOU DON’T PRESSURE
Everyone’s different. Everyone has different interests & passions. This is OK! While you & your boyfriend may not have all of the same interests, you should never feel pressure with any of them. Be you. It’s okay if you don’t want to watch the movie SAW & it’s okay that he’s not into watching Twilight.

ATTENTION IS SERVED
You’ve both gotten to the point where you can read one another fairly easily. Though you cannot read each other’s minds all of the time, you both do your best to learn as much as you can about your significant others’ needs; I mean, let’s be completely honest here, it’s amazing when somehow they just know exactly what it is that you’re needing in this moment. It means they care & it means you care.

YOU’RE BOTH QUICK TO LEARN
After each little argument, you’re both quick to learn what the other was looking to get out of the moment. You realize that you made a mistake, so you remember how to go about avoiding it in the future & vice versa.

LITTLE QUIRKS ARE NOTHING
The littlest of quirks are soon forgotten when you realize how easy it is to accommodate them. So you take a little extra time making sure the popcorn machine is cleaned the way he “has to have it” & he makes sure to put a little more time into household chores. The important things are the big issues…

BIG ISSUES ARE AGREED ON
I’m not talking about politics or sports preferences; the biggest things are how you both handle money, how many children you might want one day, how you’ll go about raising them, etc. If these things don’t click, you might want to take a step back & evaluate how important your opinion is on these issues.

YOU’RE BOTH NOT AFRAID TO TAKE RISKS
When it comes to change, you’re both up for it, even if you’re unsure. You’re also both aware that you won’t like the same exact things so, in the event that one of you doesn’t like a hobby that the other enjoys, it’s okay! (But you cannot knock it without trying.)

SUPPORT IS ONE OF THE HIGHEST FACTORS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP Even with slight hesitation, because you do worry about each other getting hurt, you’re very supportive about the changes to that will inevitably follow in your relationship. You know that home is where they are, & that regardless of what comes your way you’ll stick it out all for love. That’s how it goes.

VALUES ARE CONSISTENT
Though you may be nowhere near marriage, you both see it as an incredibly big deal. Marriage is not just a piece of paper, it’s your word, the way you are bound & everything that comes with that.

YOU DON’T TAKE THEM FOR GRANTED
This is always one that will need a little work, because people take other people for granted. We forget to notice the small things – don’t. Wake up each morning knowing why you value this person the way that you do &, most importantly, be sure to let them know. They cannot read your mind!

THE HONESTY IS IMPECCABLE
You never say something to your significant other simply to please them, because you’re not looking to fool them (or yourself). The honesty comes with knowing that you don’t want to have the same mis-communication again & it comes with being aware that honesty is incredibly important in a relationship.

THE TRUST IS THERE (& IT’S PART OF WHAT BONDS YOU)
Having someone who you know you can trust no matter what is not only an incredibly amazing thing, but it can be something that has the two of you bound together early on. Your significant other is someone who you can trust with everything you have, even in the unlikely event that things go sour; someone who values your love for what it should be valued.

Amy

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